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You are standing in a bookstore, or maybe you are scrolling through your phone late at night. Your hands are full of things to buy, books to read, courses to take, and routines to start. You have a list of ten habits you need to build before sunrise. You have a stack of journals by your bed that you have barely touched, but you bought another one anyway because the cover promised a new beginning.
You feel like a house that needs a new extension built on top. You think you need to add a new room, a new second floor, a new garden, and a new roof. You are tired, but you keep buying more bricks.
Do you know that feeling? The feeling that who you are right now is a project that is only ten percent finished, and you have to work overtime to build the rest.
We have been taught that growth is about adding things. We think we have to learn more, acquire more, do more, and become more. We treat our minds like a computer that needs a new software update every single week. If we just get the right update, we think we will finally work.
But it is really tiring. I understand you are tired.
The weight you are feeling is not the weight of your life. It is the weight of all the things you are trying to add to it. Your brain takes you to the past and the future. It tells you that you are missing a piece of the puzzle. It tells you that you need to go find it. Your presence brings you home.
In my conversation with Tom Snow on the fourth episode of the podcast, we talked about this exact weight. He spoke about awakening not as a process of adding things to yourself, but as a process of removal.
Think about a statue. The sculptor does not start with a tiny stick and glue pieces of clay onto it until it looks like a person. The sculptor starts with a massive block of marble. The statue is already inside that block. The work is not about adding anything. The work is about taking away everything that is not the statue.
When you try to fix yourself by adding more things, your nervous system gets overwhelmed. Your body goes into survival mode because you are constantly telling it that it is not safe as it is. You are telling your body that it is broken.
Most people try to fix this by scheduling more things. They schedule a therapy slot for next week, or they sign up for a weekend retreat three months from now. They wait for a calendar invite to start feeling better.
But healing does not have to take long. It does not have to include suffering. A lot of doctors and healers say months and years of bullshit. It's just not true. With the right tools, healing can happen in an hour. Sometimes half an hour.
You have to do it at the moment the pain comes up. If you know how, it is flawless and easy.
I worked with a man who came to me with a notebook full of coping mechanisms. He had lists of breathing exercises, lists of foods he could not eat, and lists of affirmations he wrote down every morning. He was exhausted from managing his own life. He felt like he was running a company called "My Healing" and he was the only employee working eighteen hour shifts.
We did not add a single new habit to his day. Instead, we looked at the story he was carrying. His story was that he had to be perfect to be safe.
Change the story, change the feeling. Change the feeling, change the behavior.
We went back to the moment that story started. He saw that he had been carrying a shield that he did not need anymore. It was a heavy, iron shield that he used to protect himself when he was ten years old. He was still carrying it at thirty five. We did not build him a new shield. We just helped him put the old one down.
One and a half hours with me and people walk out feeling liberated. They do not walk out with a bigger to do list. They walk out with empty hands.
You don't have to start all over again. You don't have to build a whole new version of yourself from scratch. You just have to put down the bricks you have been carrying.
Which one hits closest for you? Tell me in the comments.
Grab my free somatic healing meditation. Link in bio.
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